When I think about the positive impact of research, I immediately think of Ellie. Ellie was a student in my preschool for two years before entering my pre-k class; she was four-years-old then. Ellie spent a lot of time in my office (I was the director and pre-k teacher); her behavior was challenging at times. Before entering my class, my teachers warned me about “finally having to deal with Ellie in class.”
Although I was
convinced that I treated every child the same and was anxious to welcome Ellie
to my classroom, I must admit that when I found out she was in Disney World for
the entire first week of school, I was thrilled. Before Ellie even walked into my class, I had
labeled her. Although I’m embarrassed to
admit this, I learned so much from this incident, much of which is totally
related to our topic.
SO… our year
started uneventful. My assistant teacher
and I were prepared for changes on Monday when Ellie would be returning to our
class. As predicted, my little Ellie
did, in fact, have her challenges.
Within a month, my assistant teacher and I began to put one and one
together; we finally found the answer.
Ellie acted up only at the art table or on the way to the art
table. After making this realization, we
went even further, realizing that Ellie acted up whenever the children were
getting messy.
Then, one day, we
were painting huge boxes, a lot of huge boxes that we would eventually put
together to make transportation items for our classroom. It was super fun for everyone except… you
guessed it… Ellie! When Ellie started
swatting another child with paint, I lost my temper, telling Ellie to go sit in
time out. WELL… the problem is
two-fold. First of all, I never raised
my voice in class, so I shocked all of the students, and secondly, we did not
have time out in our class. Ellie went
to the library center, picked books, read, smiled, and remained through the
entire activity… and clean-up time… and snack time… and clean-up time after
snack… and potty… and…
Just as we were
about to go on the playground, a student asked about Ellie. We had totally forgotten that she was still
sitting in the library area reading books, content. I felt defeated… and I thought I was
professional. I decided to call Ellie’s
mom and set up an appointment. I wanted
to tell her what happened that day before she heard about it from another child
or their mom.
Embarrassed, I
explained what occurred today during art.
When I said that I almost left Ellie in the library, she looked at me
and smiled. She explained that Ellie
must have been happy not to be around paint, so it was alright. What did she mean “happy not to be around
paint?” Something just did not add up…
to make a very long story shorter, Ellie acted up during messy activities,
because she was taught, by her parents, not to get dirty. This little 4-year-old girl was afraid to get
dirty, because her parents would be angry.
Her parents did not want her to get dirty, because there house was all
white (thickly plush white carpet).
It was a huge
realization for all of us. The more I
talked, the more mom blocked me out.
There was nothing I could say about proven research that would change
Ellie’s mom’s opinion. Then I spent
hours gathering research that I located on the computer… I put together a
notebook of all of the research articles that I had found. I highlighted results. I had shared much of this information with
Ellie’s mom, but perhaps, she would believe it if she saw the research in print.
Several days
later, Ellie’s mom requested an afternoon conference with me. Ellie’s dad came, too. They were just about in tears as they
discussed the research they read about open-ended art and the importance of
building children’s creativity. The
research that I shared with Ellie’s parents changed their philosophy on raising
Ellie. They had no idea that they were
actually stopping Ellie’s growth in many ways.
Research taught them how to be better parents… they believed the
studies, and they quickly replaced the carpet with tile. It was not instantly, but Ellie slowly joined
her friends. I remember her face the
first time she finger-painted in our class; it was like she was experiencing
Christmas… she had so much fun.

This is, without
a doubt, my best story about a young child, and her family, who were
tremendously affected by research… and in many ways, I grew, also, as a
professional, as a teacher, as a director, as a mom, and as an individual
through research. I will never, ever
forget Ellie (yes, I did change her name for purposes of this blog!).
Wow Sissi, Great story! Thank you for sharing your experience. By listening to Ellie's parents you were able to learn what they needed to understand one another.
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Thanks Angela... just wanted you to knwo that my name is Lois... Sissi is another colleague of ours! Have a great Sunday!
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